Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code - Zola Expert Wedding Advice (2024)

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  • Use the dress code, season, and location of the wedding to guide your choice of colors, fabrics, and patterns; ex: pastel linens in the spring and rich wools in the fall.
  • Casual weddings can call for a dressy/business casual button down or sundress, while semi-formal to black-tie weddings call for suits, co*cktail dresses, and evening gowns.
  • If attending a themed wedding or one that calls for cultural attire, ensure you do your research, seek clarity, and show respect to the couple’s wishes.

Knowing what to wear to a wedding can be challenging, but there are some basic guidelines that will narrow down your options and make your outfit selection process a little easier. Below we’ve highlighted the dos and don’ts of wedding guest fashion so you can dress appropriately for any occasion.

Dos and Don'ts

Note that the following are a general list and dos and don'ts that cover most wedding dress code guidelines. That being said, each wedding celebration is unique—which means its attire guidelines might be an outlier. Take the following as baseline rules to follow, but always double-check any dress code information provided in paper suites or on a couple's wedding website.

  • Do follow the requested dress code (typically provided on the wedding invitation or the wedding website)

  • Don't wear white, cream, ivory, or any other shades of white (unless the couple has specifically asked guests to wear white)

  • Likewise, don't wear the same color or colors as the bridesmaids (if you're able, find out this info beforehand)

  • Do opt for appropriate wedding footwear (you can always bring a pair of backup shoes for dancing)

  • Don't wear denim—unless it’s a very casual wedding

  • Do prepare and dress appropriately for the weather and season

  • Don't wear anything too short, tight, flashy, or revealing

Weddings can range from super casual to ultra high end, and, as a result, figuring out what to wear as a wedding guest can be tricky. Throw in lingo like “black-tie optional” and “beach formal” and your head can really start to spin. To help you select an outfit that's appropriate, we’ve outlined the need-to-knows and go-tos for common wedding dress codes, organized by season, theme, and formality.

What to Wear Depending on the Season

Much of what you should wear to a wedding is depending on what season it's taking place in. Not only because of the weather (you'll want to keep tabs on the expected temps), but also because of aesthetic influence. Certain seasons lend themselves to different colors, fabrics, and styles. Read on to see what's certain to work for each of the four seasons.

What to Wear to a Spring Wedding

Have you recently been invited to a spring wedding? The formality of the event will heavily influence what you wear, but the season can influence the shade and material of your outfit choice. Spring weddings are all about embracing nature’s renewal, so mirror the season’s soft, light colors and pretty blossoms through your choice of pastel, floral, and breezy attire.

  • Colors: pastels (light pinks, blues, greens), neutrals (black, blush, beige, mauve)

  • Fabrics: linen, cotton, silk, or seersucker

  • Patterns: gingham, madras plaid, florals, paisley, pinstripes, or polka dots

What to Wear to a Summer Wedding

For a majority of North America, summer weddings are hot, hot, hot—especially if they're outdoor weddings. Opt for breezy fabrics and forgiving shapes to keep you comfortable through all of the heat. That doesn’t mean you can’t represent the season with colors and patterns as bright and happy as a summer sunset, however. When it comes to your wedding attire throughout the summer, keep comfortable fabrics and seasonal shades top of mind.

  • Colors: bold, bright hues (blues, oranges, greens, yellows)

  • Fabrics: linen, cotton, silk, or seersucker

  • Patterns: madras plaid, florals, bold stripes, or polka dots

What To Wear to a Fall Wedding

Like spring, a fall weddings signifies transition from one extreme season to another. Instead of new blooms, however, fall weddings celebrate the natural abundance of the harvest. This time of year intrinsically inspires a richer, warmer, more bronzed color palette and anything that feels cozy and textured. As a wedding guest, choose a formal dress or suit that either compliments the couple's wedding colors or the style of the season.

  • Colors: rich, warm colors (red, orange, yellow, purple)

  • Fabrics: wool, flannel, tweed, cotton, suede, corduroy, or leather

  • Patterns: plaid, fall florals/natural patterns

What to Wear to a Winter Wedding

A winter wedding can often be the easiest to dress for, as you’ll most likely be indoors (which means the temperature will be controlled). Let the formality and/or theme of the wedding guide your attire. Neutral colors like black, dark green, gray, or cream (if white is requested) best reflect the season’s landscape—but the sparkly, festive nature of winter holidays can also inspire wedding guest attire. All of this being said, we suggest you bring a coat, just in case you're outside for any period of time.

  • Colors: warm tones (cream), neutrals (black, gray), or festive colors (green, red)

  • Fabrics: crepe, velvet, cotton, suede, wool, tweed, corduroy, sequins, or fur

  • Patterns: plaid, sequins, sparkles

What to Wear Depending on the Theme

Often times, couples will take inspiration from their wedding season, weather, or the ceremony location. This can translate into a slightly more specific theme that suggests a somewhat different way to dress. If general themes like the following typically leave you in a bit of a rut, read on for some helpful guidance.

Festive

Speaking of winter, the season is packed full of festivities that are likely to contribute to a wedding's theme. If that seems to be the case, feel free to lean into a more merry and celebratory look. If sparkling fabrics are a go (always check with the couple first), open your mind up to eye-catching metallics. If you'd rather go for something a little less flashy, consider sleek fabrics and festive staple colors seen throughout the holiday season.

  • Colors: rich seasonal favorites (hunter green, rich reds), metallics (silver, gold, copper)

  • Fabrics: wool, tweed, suede, corduroy, sequins,

  • Patterns: plaid, sequins, sparkles

Tropical

On the other hand, a warm weather wedding may heavily lean into a tropical setting. Much like beach weddings and summer weddings, your comfort should be high priority when dressing for a tropical wedding (whether or not it's actually in the tropics). Keep light, breezy fabrics top of mind during your search. That being said, you can still pull off a flattering look complimentary to the wedding's theme. Look to the location's natural sights—such as beaches and tropical forests—for inspiration when it comes to your color palette.

  • Colors: bold and nature-inspired (emerald green, turquoise, navy blue), neutrals (black, beige)

  • Fabrics: linen, cotton, silk

  • Patterns: florals, palm fronds

What to Wear to a Wedding With Traditional Cultural Attire

If you’re invited to an event that calls for traditional clothing typically worn during specific religious or cultural wedding rituals, it’s important to do your research and dress the part. Ask for assistance if you need it and respect the couple’s wishes and their traditional customs.

That being said, there are some basic guidelines we can give you to help you dress the part. As always, check the wedding invitation, wedding website, or contact the couple directly if you’re unsure of what to wear.

  • An Indian wedding: Avoid black and red and, instead, opt for bright, festive colors. Lehengas (two-piece outfits) and sarees (a long silk piece of fabric) are often encouraged for women, while men should dress in a sherwani (a long top that resembles a coat).

  • A Nigerian wedding: In many cases, eveningwear is acceptable. However, the couple may request you wear traditional, color-coded ensembles called asoebi.

  • A Japanese wedding: Formal attire is most common and it’s encouraged that you cover your shoulders (either with sleeves or a shall), knees, and toes. A formal kimono can be worn if requested and you know how to wear one properly.

  • A Chinese wedding: Avoid wearing black, white, and red. Instead, consider an ensemble that has warm tones, which symbolize happiness and new life. Check your invitation, the website, or with the couple about suitable formality.

What to Wear Depending on the Dress Code

A wedding's dress code should heavily influence what it is you decide to wear. Typically, the couple will provide the level of formality in their paper suite or on their wedding website. If you're unsure of a wedding's formality, always check with the couple before shopping (even if you're just shopping your closest). However, sometimes you can have this information and still not be sure what it means. For these cases, we've provided an easy-to-understand guide below. Browse it for explanations, as well as outfit ideas.

Casual

The attire for casual weddings can vary a lot depending on the location and time of day. Unless it’s communicated that the celebration has a very relaxed vibe, we would recommend avoiding tank tops, t-shirts, shorts, or jeans (in general, avoid an every-day outfit). To play it safe, dressy casual or business casual is your best bet for a casual dress code. Keep in mind that a daytime wedding vs. an evening wedding may influence how nicely you should dress.

  • Ensemble: Button-down shirt, polo, relaxed pants (chinos, khakis), sports coat or blazer

  • Shoes: Casual loafers, boat shoes

  • Ensemble: Sundress, midi-dress, jumpsuit

  • Shoes: Kitten heels, wedges, flats

Semi-Formal (or co*cktail Attire)

Semi-formal attire, also commonly referred to as co*cktail attire, falls in the middle between casual and formal on the formality scale. For semi-formal weddings, focus on ensembles that are nice and put-together, but avoid going over the top. Remember: It's better to be a bit overdressed than to show up in something too casual.

  • Ensemble: Suit (dress shirt, dinner jacket, dress pants)

  • Shoes: Dress shoes

  • Accessories: Tie optional

  • Ensemble: co*cktail dress (typically knee-length), midi dress, dressy jumpsuit

  • Shoes: Heels, kitten heels, dressy flats

  • Accessories: Complimentary jewelry, purse or clutch

Black-Tie Optional (or Formal Dress Code)

A black-tie dress code traditionally refers to tuxedos for men and floor-length dresses for women. That being said, as time has gone on, most couples have loosened up their definition of a black-tie wedding just a bit. Black-tie optional weddings usually imply that, while black-tie attire is preferred, men can opt instead for a nice dinner jacket, dress pants, and dress shoes, and women can instead wear a very nice co*cktail dress (think high quality fabrics and rich colors). If you go with the later, make sure that your formal wedding attire will blend in with a crowd of people wearing tuxes and evening gowns.

  • Ensemble: Tuxedo, dinner jacket, dress shirt (most often a white shirt), or formal dark suit (optional cumme*rbund)

  • Shoes: Dress shoes, dark dress socks

  • Accessories: Black tie, black bowtie

  • Ensemble: Floor-length gown, nice co*cktail dress, formal pantsuit

  • Shoes: Heels in a neutral or complimentary color

  • Accessories: Classic jewelry (pearls, diamonds, faux diamonds), evening purse or clutch

White-Tie

White-tie dress codes are often requested for especially formal weddings and formal events. It's the most formal wedding dress code and is typically reserved for prominent and upscale wedding ceremonies and celebrations. Full-length gowns in rich and elegant fabrics are expected of women, while men are expected to don tuxedos. When a wedding is said to be white-tie, it implies that formality is a large part of the occasion. When in doubt, dress in your most formal attire.

  • Ensemble: Tuxedo (including button-down shirt and waistcoat), tailcoat

  • Shoes: Black patent-leather dress shoes with black laces

  • Accessories: Bowtie, cufflinks, white gloves

  • Ensemble: Floor-length ball gown,

  • Shoes: Sophisticated and solid colored heels

  • Accessories: Opulent jewelry, white gloves

When in doubt, don't hesitate to reach out to the bride(s) or groom(s) with questions. It's polite and more comfortable for everyone that you play it safe and ask for any dress code clarification you need. That being said, if you're newly confident in how to dress for an upcoming wedding, but aren't sure how to dress your children, we've also got you covered there.

What to Wear Depending on the Theme

Often times, couples will take inspiration from their wedding season, weather, or the ceremony location. This can translate into a slightly more specific theme that suggests a somewhat different way to dress. If general themes like the following typically leave you in a bit of a rut, read on for some helpful guidance.

Festive

Speaking of winter, the season is packed full of festivities that are likely to contribute to a wedding's theme. If that seems to be the case, feel free to lean into a more merry and celebratory look. If sparkling fabrics are a go (always check with the couple first), open your mind up to eye-catching metallics. If you'd rather go for something a little less flashy, consider sleek fabrics and festive staple colors seen throughout the holiday season.

  • Colors: rich seasonal favorites (hunter green, rich reds), metallics (silver, gold, copper)

  • Fabrics: wool, tweed, suede, corduroy, sequins,

  • Patterns: plaid, sequins, sparkles

Tropical

On the other hand, a warm weather wedding may heavily lean into a tropical setting. Much like beach weddings and summer weddings, your comfort should be high priority when dressing for a tropical wedding (whether or not it's actually in the tropics). Keep light, breezy fabrics top of mind during your search. That being said, you can still pull off a flattering look complimentary to the wedding's theme. Look to the location's natural sights—such as beaches and tropical forests—for inspiration when it comes to your color palette.

  • Colors: bold and nature-inspired (emerald green, turquoise, navy blue), neutrals (black, beige)

  • Fabrics: linen, cotton, silk

  • Patterns: florals, palm fronds

What to Wear to a Wedding With Traditional Cultural Attire

If you’re invited to an event that calls for traditional clothing typically worn during specific religious or cultural wedding rituals, it’s important to do your research and dress the part. Ask for assistance if you need it, and respect the couple’s wishes and their traditional customs.

What to Wear Depending on the Dress Code

A wedding's dress code should heavily influence what it is you decide to wear. Typically, the couple will provide the level of formality in their paper suite or on their wedding website. If you're unsure of a wedding's formality, always check with the couple before shopping (even if you're just shopping your closest). However, sometimes you can have this information and still not be sure what it means. For these cases, we've provided an easy-to-understand guide below. Browse it for explanations, as well as outfit ideas.

Casual

The attire for casual weddings can vary a lot depending on the location and time of day. Unless it’s communicated that the celebration has a very relaxed vibe, we would recommend avoiding tank tops, t-shirts, shorts, or jeans (in general, avoid an every-day outfit). To play it safe, dressy casual or business casual is your best bet for a casual dress code. Keep in mind that a daytime wedding vs. an evening wedding may influence how nicely you should dress.

  • Ensemble: Button-down shirt, polo, relaxed pants (chinos, khakis), sports coat or blazer

  • Shoes: Casual loafers, boat shoes

  • Ensemble: Sundress, midi-dress, jumpsuit

  • Shoes: Kitten heels, wedges, flats

Semi-Formal (or co*cktail Attire)

Semi-formal attire, also commonly referred to as co*cktail attire, falls in the middle between casual and formal on the formality scale. For semi-formal weddings, focus on ensembles that are nice and put-together, but avoid going over the top. Remember: It's better to be a bit overdressed than to show up in something too casual.

  • Ensemble: Suit (button down shirt, dinner jacket, dress pants)

  • Shoes: Dress shoes

  • Accessories: Tie optional

  • Ensemble: co*cktail dress (typically knee-length), midi dress, dressy jumpsuit

  • Shoes: Heels, kitten heels, dressy flats

  • Accessories: Complimentary jewelry, purse or clutch

Black-Tie Optional (or Formal)

A black-tie dress code traditionally refers to tuxedos for men and floor-length dresses for women. That being said, as time has gone on, most couples have loosened up their definition of a black-tie wedding just a bit. Black-tie optional weddings usually imply that, while black-tie attire is preferred, men can opt instead for a nice dinner jacket, dress pants, and dress shoes, and women can instead wear a very nice co*cktail dress (think high quality fabrics and rich colors). If you go with the later, make sure that your formal wedding attire will blend in with a crowd of people wearing tuxes and evening gowns.

  • Ensemble: Tuxedo, dinner jacket, or formal dark suit

  • Shoes: Dress shoes, dark dress socks

  • Accessories: Black tie, black bowtie

  • Ensemble: Floor-length gown, nice co*cktail dress, formal pantsuit

  • Shoes: Heels in a neutral or complimentary color

  • Accessories: Classic jewelry (pearls, diamonds, faux diamonds), evening purse or clutch

White-Tie

White-tie dress codes are often requested for especially formal weddings and formal events. It's the most formal wedding dress code and is typically reserved for prominent and upscale wedding ceremonies and celebrations. Full-length gowns in rich and elegant fabrics are expected of women, while men are expected to don tuxedos. When a wedding is said to be white-tie, it implies that formality is a large part of the occasion. When in doubt, dress in your most formal attire.

  • Ensemble: Tuxedo (including button-down shirt and waistcoat), tailcoat

  • Shoes: Black patent-leather dress shoes with black laces

  • Accessories: Bowtie, cufflinks, white gloves

  • Ensemble: Floor-length ball gown,

  • Shoes: Sophisticated and solid colored heels

  • Accessories: Opulent jewelry, white gloves

When in doubt, don't hesitate to reach out to the bride(s) or groom(s) with questions. It's polite and more comfortable for everyone that you play it safe and ask for any dress code clarification you need. That being said, if you're newly confident in how to dress for an upcoming wedding, but aren't sure how to dress your children, we've also got you covered there.

Wedding Guest Attire: A Guide to Every Dress Code - Zola Expert Wedding Advice (2024)

FAQs

How do you answer what is the dress code for a wedding? ›

3. What should I wear?
  1. “The wedding is casual, so please feel free to wear whatever you'd feel best in!”
  2. “The wedding is semi-formal, so we encourage you to wear co*cktail attire [for evening events] / Sunday best [for daytime events].”
  3. “The wedding is formal, so we encourage you to wear black tie attire.
Oct 2, 2019

What is the best dress code for attending wedding? ›

1) Do Consider the Wedding Dress Code
  • Black Tie: floor length gowns, black ties, tuxedos.
  • Formal: floor length gowns, tuxedos optional, black suits acceptable.
  • Semi-Formal: below the knee dresses, dress shirts, slacks.
  • Casual: sundresses, collared shirts, khakis.

What is an inappropriate dress for a wedding guest? ›

Anything Too Casual

We get it, no one wants to quit their coziest clothing like yoga pants, slippers, and jeans, but it's important to remember that these have no place at a wedding. Even if the celebration is casual and relaxed, guests should always err on the side of formal.

How to explain dress code to guests? ›

USE THE CORRECT DRESS CODE WORDING

Gentlemen wear white tie and tails, while ladies will wear long, formal gowns. White tie is rare, used for only the fanciest ball or diplomatic event. “Black tie” refers to a tuxedo. It's still very formal, but a little less strict than white tie.

What is dress code answer? ›

: a set of rules about what clothing may and may not be worn at a school, office, restaurant, etc.

What is the most formal wedding dress code? ›

White-tie wedding attire is the most formal of all dress codes. Also called full dress, white tie attire is often reserved for elegant events like state dinners, royal banquets and very formal weddings. While white-tie weddings aren't as common today, it is important to dress appropriately if you're invited to one.

What is the safest color to wear to a wedding? ›

Dark colors, as you'd wear for a formal wedding, are still safe here and you won't look out of place if you choose them. But you'll find that lighter greys and blues are also acceptable, and may be a better choice if the wedding takes place during the summer.

What is the smart casual dress code? ›

Smart casual is an approach to dressing professionally that mixes trendier pieces in with classic staples. The goal is an appearance that's clean and professional but doesn't look too formal. You want to look pulled together but a bit interesting and approachable.

What means something you should never wear as a wedding guest? ›

It doesn't matter if the dress code requests "casual" attire, jeans, T-shirts, shorts, flip-flops, and sneakers are never appropriate to wear as a wedding guest. Show respect for the bride and groom by dressing formally. Sabatino suggests that men show up in a jacket and tie, even when the invitation says casual.

Why can't you wear red to a wedding? ›

Turns out, wearing red to a wedding means to some that “you've slept with the groom.” “Old Wives' Tale, but yeah,” Mitchell explained. However, both wedding planners agreed on a more modern reason for not wearing red: It could be seen as a way to grab the attention away from the bride.

Is it rude to wear the wedding colors as a guest? ›

The colour scheme, when it comes to what to wear, is designed for the bridal party i.e. the groom, groomsmen, bridesmaids, pageboys etc. Unless you're in that bridal party, you'd be best to steer clear of trying to match them. Think of it a bit like a stage show.

Can a female guest wear black to a wedding? ›

I actually just invested in a classic black suiting option that will be my go-to for fall weddings.” Alexandra Macon, Vogue contributor and co-founder of Over-The-Moon, agrees: "It is perfectly acceptable, and chic, to wear black to a wedding—as long as it's festive and not funereal," she says.

What shoes not to wear to a wedding? ›

Avoid Shoes That:
  • Have more than 1.5″ of height (I would avoid heels and wedges all together, unless you only wear them for the ceremony)
  • Pinch (are too tight) or shift (are too loose) as these will increase your risk of getting blisters.
Apr 12, 2016

Is it okay to wear black to a wedding as a guest? ›

As a general rule, "wearing black is totally acceptable, as the hue is very versatile," says bridal stylist Julie Sabatino of The Stylish Bride. Make the shade work for you—at any type of wedding—with these ideas for choosing the right fabrice, length, and accessories.

How do I mention the dress code in a wedding invitation? ›

Traditional wording like “Black Tie” or “co*cktail Attire” is common, or you can get creative with phrases like “Dress to Impress” or “Beach Chic.” Decide where to include the dress code information: The dress code information can be included on the main invitation, on a separate insert, or on your wedding website.

Do you need to specify dress code for a wedding? ›

White tie, black tie, and black tie optional are typically the only dress codes that should be mentioned on an invitation, but others can be listed on your wedding website, especially in a FAQ section. Formal attire is not very different from black tie optional, but will generally feel a little less strict.

What does dressy casual mean for a wedding? ›

Dressy Casual: For men, think slacks, dress shirts, optional ties/jackets. For women, think nice dresses, sundresses, dressy skirts, jumpsuits, nice 2-piece outfits, etc. We recommend wearing shoes that can handle uneven terrain, and you may want to bring a light jacket for after sunset.

How to explain a semi-formal dress code? ›

Examples of semi-formal attire can include the likes of a dark suit and tie for men or a co*cktail dress for women. Tuxedos and floor-length gowns are a little too much, but the likes of khakis, jeans, and polo shirts are far too little. Those items would fall instead into men's casual wedding attire.

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