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By Boutayna Chokrane

10 DIY Engagement Party Ideas for Every Couple (4)

Photographed by Daniel Jackson, Vogue, December 2018

You said yes! Now, it’s time to share the news—and there’s no better way than with a party.

Don’t worry about brainstorming unique engagement party ideas, as we’ve got you covered. This is your moment to celebrate with your nearest and dearest, unburdened by the pressures that accompany the upcoming nuptials. Unlike the intricate process of wedding planning, an engagement party should be a notably less stressful experience. With weddings turning into marathons, it’s easy to lose steam early in the process. So, before the whirlwind ensues, let’s toast with 10 of our favorite engagement party ideas.

Dinner Party

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Rather than fully adhering to the dinner party wedding trend, consider treating your loved ones to an elegant sit-down soirée. Another option would be to invite your close friends to a private dining experience at a restaurant of your choosing. Take it to the next level and collaborate with the staff to curate a personalized, set menu—or simply open a tab if you’re looking for a more relaxed vibe.

Pool Party

Who doesn’t love a good poolside bash? Guests can take a dip, soak up the sun, and lounge by the water. A theme is always fun: opt for a tropical aesthetic, complete with crowd-pleasing margaritas and piña coladas. Keep things refreshing with boozy popsicles as a sweet treat, and don’t forget to have some baskets around stocked with sun essentials—think sunscreen, pool towels, and sunglasses.

“I Do” BBQ

Chris Benz prepares the grilled Maine lobster tails.Photo: Courtesy of Christina Pérez

The “I do” BBQ is a classic engagement party idea, and one that requires minimal party planning for the couple who prefers a laid-back yet tasteful affair. Ideal for the spring and summer seasons, it’s also easy to tailor to your surroundings, be it an indoor grill, communal rooftop, or a full backyard setup. For co*cktails, keep it simple with spiked lemonade pitchers and a well-stocked beer tub. Don’t forget the ice, and the vegetarian options to balance out the burgers and hot dogs. Add a personal touch with a signature BBQ sauce, french fry bar, or a make-your-own ice cream station. Check out Pinterest for further inspiration.

Costume Party

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Halloween isn’t the only time of year you can dress up—and a costume party can also serve as the perfect front for a surprise engagement announcement if you’ve kept it under wraps. If going for full-on costumes isn’t your style, a subtle engagement party theme can be just as lively. Perhaps, a throwback to a Roaring Twenties speakeasy, complete with Champagne towers, a live jazz band, and a list of Prohibition-inspired signature co*cktails. If you feel like donning ’70s threads, a roller disco might be just the groovy ticket; or, for an air of mystery and opulence, a masquerade.

Movie Night

If you’re a pair of film buffs, host a movie night for your entourage. Transform your abode into a home cinema by renting a projector and popcorn machine. You could also make it a pajama-themed party, and encourage your guests to come in comfy PJs.

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Whether you opt for an indoor theater or snug, outdoor setup, the ambiance is key. Enhance the cozy feel with a plethora of plush blankets, a wide selection of beverages, and, of course, movie theater candy. Choose an all-time classic or romcom for the main feature, or showcase your own collection of cherished home videos and photos for that extra personal touch. It's the perfect excuse to be cheesy, after all.

Champagne Brunch

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A late-morning affair is a particularly chic idea for your engagement party, à la Breakfast at Tiffany's. Serve bottomless Champagne and mimosas, with an indulgent spread of yogurt parfaits, French toast, and Eggs Benedict. Tailor the brunch to your personality and guest list—do you prefer an intimate sit-down brunch or a breakfast buffet? How about an afternoon tea-style brunch instead? In that case, ditch the booze, and treat your guests to an assortment of teas, alongside finger sandwiches, scones, and pastries.

Potluck Picnic

Whether in your own backyard or a local park, a picnic is a wholesome get-together for the low-maintenance couple. Craft a delectable cheese board, adorned with a selection of charcuterie, sandwiches, and lemonade for beverages. Skip the live band; grab your speaker and set the mood with your specially curated Spotify playlist.

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To accommodate any dietary restrictions, encourage guests to contribute their favorite finger foods. You can even embrace a Parisian-themed picnic, with an array of fruits and jams, well-paired wines, and madeleines. Or, transport your luncheon to the sun-kissed charm of Positano, with a refreshing Caprese salad, Aperol spritzes, and bougainvillea centerpieces—and don’t forget the limoncello digestif. (However, do make sure you’re prepared with an indoor backup plan in case of unexpected rain.)

co*cktail Party

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A co*cktail party proves that glamour need not strain your budget, favoring light bites over a full-course meal. Hire a mixologist to craft a signature co*cktail inspired by the happy couple. The bartender could also offer a co*cktail-making class, and guests can leave with a personal co*cktail-making set as a party favor. Also, you can’t go wrong with a live band.

Glamping Getaway

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For a close-knit group of friends, rent out a cabin or a couple of glamping tents for a weekend retreat. A grown-up take on summer camp, you can hike along scenic trails during the day, and when the sun sets, gather around the bonfire to swap nostalgic stories while roasting marshmallows and eating s'mores.

Wine Tasting

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For the newly engaged couple seeking an elevated experience, indulge in a wine-tasting escapade with picturesque views. (For beer drinkers, a brewery promises an equally enjoyable outing.) Depending on where you live, you can arrange for a tour bus or an organized winery trail for a day of vineyard hopping. And, should you prefer the comfort of your home, simply hire a sommelier for a private wine-tasting session. Just don’t forget the hors d’oeuvres and cheese.

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10 DIY Engagement Party Ideas for Every Couple (2024)

FAQs

Do I throw my own engagement party? ›

Traditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the bride's parents, but friends of the bride and groom and other relatives may want to organize the gathering as well. The couple may opt to have two or more parties: one for relatives and family friends, for instance, and another for their own friends.

What is supposed to happen at an engagement party? ›

Here are some common elements and things that often happen at an engagement party: Toasts and speeches: Seeing as you just decided to spend your lives together, you might want to commemorate the occasion with some toasts and speeches. Typically, you and your partner might say a few words, as well as your parents.

Who pays for drinks at an engagement party? ›

The host(s) pay(s). If one or both sets of parents throw the party, they split the costs. If the engaged couple hold their own event, they pay. If friends get together and have a party, they cover the expenses.

Who typically throws an engagement party? ›

Traditionally the engagement party is hosted by the bride's parents, but can also be given by friends of the bride and groom, or other relatives. Yes, you can have two or more parties; one for relatives and family friends, for instance, and another for your own friends.

How many hours should an engagement party be? ›

In terms of the length of the engagement party, couples typically choose a two to four-hour window. If you do not plan to serve a full meal, it's best to choose a time frame in between typical mealtimes, such as 2-5 p.m.

Do you have to give favors at an engagement party? ›

While engagement gifts are a nice touch, they are not mandatory (except in some religious and cultural circles) and should be left to the discretion of each guest.

Do you have a cake at an engagement party? ›

It's my firm belief that it's not a party without a cake, so even if you decide to forgo a full buffet or sit-down meal, you should, at the very least invest in an engagement cake, which can feed the party goers. Popular are also afternoon tea celebrations.

How soon after getting engaged should you have an engagement party? ›

Planning your party two to four months after the proposal is standard. This is the sweet spot between relishing in your newly engaged life and getting serious about planning your big day.

What can I do instead of an engagement party? ›

Take Engagement Photos

Engagement photos are a great way to share the news with your family and friends without throwing a huge party. What's more, your photoshoot will serve as an intimate event for you and your partner to enjoy, as well as a moment in time to look back on for years to come.

What do you do at an engagement party at home? ›

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Do parents bring a gift to an engagement party? ›

While engagement gifts from parents to their children aren't required, they're certainly welcome and appreciated, especially if the couple is having an engagement party hosted by someone that's not one of their parents.

Do I bring a gift to an engagement party? ›

You won't be barred entry if you come to an engagement party without a gift. However, some guests feel more comfortable bringing a small gift rather than showing up empty-handed. Either way, no rule says gifts are required for engagement parties.

What is the protocol for an engagement party? ›

In traditional engagement party etiquette, the engaged couple's parents take the lead. It's their chance to shine and to throw a bash that celebrates not only your love but also the union of your families. If both sets of parents are itching to pop a bottle of Champagne in your honor, consider having multiple parties.

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